I have everything, so why do I feel empty?

Because having it all is not the same as feeling it. You can have the job, the house, the family and the full agenda, and still lie awake at night with your head racing while your body never gets to land. That empty feeling isn’t ingratitude and it isn’t weakness: your system has been running at full speed for so long that you’ve lost touch with what you actually want.

I know it from the inside! I had everything you’re supposed to want: a business in Portugal, the house, the picture. And I had lost myself. I sold my dream life, lost everything and started again, and I wrote a book about it: My Golden Cage. That’s why I don’t come to you with another to do list. Getting out of your head starts small, in your body, and you can start tonight.

Three things you can do today

Stop asking your head for the answer, it’s the busiest place you have. Breathe out longer than you breathe in, five times, and feel your shoulders drop. Then ask yourself one simple question: What do I want right now? Not this year, right now. And do that one thing, however small! Feeling it first and then acting on it, that’s how you find your way back to yourself.

Questions women ask me

Is it normal to feel empty when you have it all?

Yes, and you’re far from the only one! So many women I work with have everything except themselves. Nothing is wrong with you, you’ve just been living in your head for too long.

Why can’t I sleep when nothing is wrong?

Because your body doesn’t know that nothing is wrong. Your head keeps going, so your body keeps watching. When you learn to land in your body again, sleep often follows.

Do I need to change my whole life?

No! I did, but you don’t have to. Most of the time it starts with small things you do every day, and with someone who reminds you to keep doing them.

Want to start tonight? Get RESET for free, three recordings from me with a yoga nidra and a breath practice. And if you want the whole story, read My Golden Cage.

What would you feel if you stopped running for just one evening?